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Keeping the Spark Alive: Simple Romantic Things Long-Time Couples Can Do

When you build a fire, whether to warm your home or to add a bit of ambience on a cold, winter’s night, you know you’ve got to tend to the fire to keep it going. Relationships are no different. They, too, begin with that initial spark, but you both have to tend to the relationship to keep the heat!

In our modern age, too many couples are ready to throw in the towel as soon as things begin to cool off slightly.  Love takes work, that’s the reality. I’ve known and worked with many couples who have been together for decades and I’ve learned some of the key things that have helped them stay together for so long.

Give Each Other Your Full Attention

One of the greatest gifts of love you can give someone is your attention. Especially in today’s day and age, when it seems everyone has their head down, staring at their phone.

When you first fell in love, the other person was the center of your world. Has that changed over time? Do you take each other for granted?

Whether it’s to share a silly story or seek advice, be sure to always give each other your full attention. Tune into them fully and engage. Ask questions and be with them there in the moment.

Learn Together

When the relationships begins to feel stale and old, it’s time to learn something new together. This could be taking a Salsa class or learning how to white water raft. The wonderful thing is while you are learning a new skill together, you will most likely learn new things about each other. We get to a point in our relationship when we think we know everything about the other person. But people are deep, mysterious wells that take years and years to explore!

Plan Surprises

Take turns planning something fun and spontaneous for you to do each month. It could be borrowing your friend’s rooftop condo for a rooftop summer picnic with stunning views of downtown. Or it could be taking a weekend cooking class, or going on an overnight trip up into the mountains. Being spontaneous not only helps you break out of your relationship rut, it “forces” you to really think of the other person and what might make them happy.

Love is not something you fall in and out of; it is a journey that both of you are on together. To stay the course, be sure to give each other your full attention, learn together, and be spontaneous!

SOURCES:

https://www.tonyrobbins.com/love-relationships/keeping-the-spark-alive/

https://www.insider.com/how-to-keep-the-spark-in-your-relationship-2017-7

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-relationships/202010/keeping-the-spark-alive-in-your-relationship

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How to Manage Pre-Wedding Family Drama

A wedding is a special celebration of two lives coming together as one. It is a time to drink and be merry, and to look forward to many years of wedded bliss. Planning that wedding, however, can be a real nightmare when everyone is chiming in with their opinion, and when some people don’t get along with other people. If you can relate, keep reading to learn some ways you can manage pre-wedding family drama.

Map Out Your Needs First

Before opening yourselves up to family suggestions and requests, be sure you and your fiancé sit down to discuss what is most important to you both. What will help you maintain a level of authenticity and have a wedding that truly reflects your values and love for one another? Only when you have your needs and vision firmly in your mind should you open the floor to others’.

Be Open But Firm

Your family members love you and, for the most part, their input is to ensure your day is perfect. Meet these pieces of advice and opinions with an open mind, remaining flexible and collaborative.

Having said that, do NOT feel the need to try and accommodate everyone else’s needs and vision. At the end of the day, this is YOUR big day.

Make Self-Care a Priority

Much family drama stems from not being able to deal with the stress in the first place. Be sure to take care of yourself during this planning phase. That means eating right and not giving into the junk food that’s calling, getting enough sleep and making time for relaxing. When you feel good you are able to deal with family drama in a calm manner.

Weddings should be fun. So should planning them. Be sure to have your vision in mind, remain flexible, and make your mental and physical health a priority!

SOURCES:

https://www.bridalguide.com/blogs/real-brides-speak-out/family-relationships-wedding-planning

How to Deal with Family Drama During Wedding Planning

How to Navigate Family Drama While Wedding Planning

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Nurturing Positive Relationships With Immediate Family Members

Do you struggle to maintain a positive relationship with your father, mother, brother, sister, spouse, or child? If so, you’re not alone. Oftentimes, the people closest to us are the ones who know how to push our buttons the most. And conversely, we tend to show the worst sides of ourselves to the individuals we feel most comfortable around.

While building healthy relationships with immediate family members can be difficult, it’s not impossible. Here are some tips for how to nurture positive family relationships:

  • Keep up with each other’s lives. Learning about your loved ones’ work or school duties, friendships, and interests can go a long way toward helping you feel closer to them and ensuring that they feel like you care. The next time you have dinner together, be sure to put down your phones, listen, and ask follow-up questions.
  • Start a new tradition. Rituals can help families feel more stable and connected. Start having a weekly pizza or board game night, or begin planning regular getaways (you could even have your family members take turns choosing the destination!).
  • Get moving. Studies show that exercise can be a great stress reliever, so if you think that stress might be contributing to tension within your family unit, you may want to consider incorporating more movement into your daily routine. Go on after-dinner walks or bike rides together, plan weekend hikes, or invest in a volleyball net for the backyard. Even if you’re not feeling stressed, working out with your family is a great way to improve your health while spending quality time together.

Looking to Build Positive Family Relationships?

If you’re hoping to foster healthy relationships with immediate family members, we can help. Contact us today to schedule an appointment. We’ll be happy to tell you more about our practice and answer any questions you might have.

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How to Manage Working from Home with Your Partner

More and more people are opting to work from home. While this has its advantages, it definitely has its challenges as well. Particularly when your partner also works from home.

The following are some tips to help you and your partner share a successful and harmonious dwelling while both working remotely:

Give Each Other Space

You might be tempted to spend every moment together now that you are both home all day. While some couples may be able to pull this off, it’s generally not a good idea to be on top of each other during your work day. For instance, if you partner is at the dining room table on their laptop, it might be a good idea for you to retreat to a spare bedroom with yours. It’s easier for most people to focus and get important work done when they have space and privacy.

Respect Each Other’s Timetable

Remote work often means you can set your own schedule. You may want to get up early and get right to work, while your partner may get more accomplished in the evening hours. As long as you both contribute to household and family chores, be sure to give each other permission to work at the times that suit you best.

Have Open and Clear Communication

There’s a very good chance that neither of you are mind readers. It’s for this reason that you’ve got to be clear about your needs. For instance, if you have an important Zoom call in the afternoon, be sure to let your partner know that you will need quiet and not to be interrupted between such-and-such hours. You might want to consider getting a dry erase board so you both can share any important information from day-to-day.

It won’t necessarily be easy, and it may take some getting used to… but with some consideration for each other’s needs, working from home together may turn out to be a very enjoyable experience!

SOURCES:

https://www.gq.com/story/we-can-work-from-home

https://remote.co/couples-who-both-work-from-home/

https://medium.com/swlh/how-to-avoid-killing-your-partner-when-you-both-work-from-home-6fb3506f996

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